If you need to post a picture, you should be going to a doctor. Topics covered by the FAQ and in countless threads already will be removed, as will posts that do not follow the guidelines in the FAQ. More details on the community rules can be found here. Craigslist Casual Encounter self. Just wondering if anyone has ever had a casual encounter through craigslist. Either to explore something new, or just to see what's out there. Been thinking about it for a while, and want to hear if anyone has had good or bad experiences.
Hopefully to help me decide whether or not i should carry through with any of these. Once was a NSA that I responded to, she responded back, i went over, we fucked and i left. It was not very fun. But i will try again i am sure. The second time i posted in the Platonic section, she responded, we meet up for drinks, went and did something, spent the evening hanging out, then went back to her place, she pulled me in we kissed then we fucked and it was fun. Can you elaborate on what you mean by "Pros"..
OKC is actually a nice alternative to Craigs. Since you have to make a profile, post a photo and answer questions there's a sense of security that I don't think you get with CL. Might be a false sense but still seems better.
Either way, I found someone I hooked up with and found someone I wanted to actually date. Give it a shot! It was m4m, and was okay. We had our fun. Outside of that one instance, I've tried numerous times but CL seriously seems to be more bots than anything these days. As a guy, your best bet is to post your own ad, as very few w4m ads are actually from real women.
Non-face pics is a good idea. Once you have your ad written, re-write it with completely different wording. Then write a third. The important thing is decent spelling and grammar and sounding intelligent, normal and sane. Now post your first ad first thing in the morning. Wait until the afternoon, then post your second. In the evening, post your third. There's a shit load of ads being posted and you want yours near the top. Every 48 hrs Cl allows you to "renew" the ad and bump it to the top.
I've had a couple of fun encounters from CL, plus my current girlfriend who I've been seeing for 8 months and I'm hopelessly in love with. There's lots of real women reading CE, the trick is to stand out from the crowd. I did it once. He didn't want to switch from missionary and he didn't try to get me off at all.
I hated it and I was mad at myself. What a waste of a good night. Some of mine have been like that as well! One guy even got us a motel room and busted in 3 minutes and said he was done Experiences like that definitely spoil the fun of it. If you're having no strings attached sex, why not take the opportunity to be really open about what you want? Or were you and he was just really bad? We talked for about a week before meeting up.
He was just really bad. He was all about being attentive and then wasn't. That happened to me as well! We had a whole night planned out with a room and sleep over and all That was definitely one of my most disappointing sexual experiences ever. I have thought about posting my own ad. My friend did that And she says the sex was mind blowing. I guess for the most part it is just hit or miss. In general the sex has actually been a lot better when I responded to ads, but I've had great sex from guys who've responded to me as well.
But like you said it's definitely hit or miss. One time when I made an ad I had a guy marine who responded to me and we got along really well and were super attracted to each other. We had time conflicts traveling so we talked for a month before meeting up in person. Our chemistry was off the fucking wall, we didn't end up having sex but even just fooling around I could tell he would've been great in bed.
He has since deployed and will be gone for 2 years. But that's very difficult to find that type of chemistry so don't rely on craigslist to find an attraction that strong. Although for another example, I made an ad today and I couldn't have sex with the guy today time didn't permit , he drove to my house and I went outside to give him a blowjob in his car. He was pretty satisfied and hopefully he'll hit me up soon for sex.
He was pretty hot and smelled good despite just coming back from the gym LOL. Lots and lots of fake posts but I did get responses from real women, from there I met up with the most attractive one.
She had a huge cum fetish and I was really horny at the time so yea It was pretty fun, she basically had me visit her office after hours and then gave me 2 blowjobs and swallowed all my cum while playing with herself to get off. It was my first time being with someone so enthusiastic about oral and really good at it and my first time being deepthroated or titfucked by a woman with large breasts.
Yeah plenty of times, but it's very hit and miss. Most of the guys I've met were kinda meh, but three guys in particular were amazing. All were marines and really great fucks. You're definitely going to meet some sketchy people on there, so use protection even if they say they're clean. Also very dishonest people as well, one of the guys I was with was married with a newborn and I have no idea how he got "permission" to stay the night in a hotel with me.
Also you'll encounter a lot of fake people on there who will lead you on and flake on you. If anything ask for their kik and ask them to take pictures on the Camera app, so you know they're not using fake photos. Or use an app like Skout or Tinder. For a male i found it to be all pro's or scams.
I posted an ad for NSA sex. I received over replies. Most were just cock pics, with a message that read, "hey, baby" and that was the extent of the communication. Only about 10 of them complied with my request to put their favorite drink in the subject line.
One hour after I posted I had received one death threat and three different messages calling me names for not responding. I chose a guy who wrote a real message. There was punctuation in it! My hope had been to find a hook-up for that weekend, but after many creepy messages, I slowed down. I chose a guy who had made me laugh. We talked for about a week everyday and then met for coffee. He was hot and funny and it was on! We would meet up randomly, whenever we could manage.
Mediocre conversation, but I wasn't shopping for conversation. As a female, it was a bit scary. A lesson in caution, I think. I have since searched a couple of times on Craigslist for NSA sex. Once I was stood up by the same guy three times.
The other time was much like my first experience: For women it's really easy. Very few of the women who were advertising seemed to be looking for anything I would consider a "normal encounter. I typically wrote two or three paragraph replies and matched the tone of their own messages, then attached a couple of tasteful photos of myself.
I didn't get a single reply from an actual prospect this way. It turned out that most of the ads were fakes from scammers, and quite a few fell into another category all together.
Prostitution is what made Craigslist controversial. There's technically another section for that — "Adult Services," formerly "Erotic Services" — but that's not the only place you'll find practitioners of the world's oldest profession. The prostitutes of Craigslist speak in code, but it's not a difficult one to learn. They advertise "French lessons" — an odd thing to advertise under "Casual Encounters," don't you think?
Well, it's obviously a euphemism for something else. Many of the ads that weren't from scammers were from prostitutes. The ads are so obvious that it's surprising the euphemisms are effective in fending off law enforcement. Then again, maybe they are law enforcement. Amidst all those failures, I had one near-success.
A woman wrote in response to my sweet "cuddling first" ad saying she was in town for only a couple of months, and that she was frustrated she couldn't find a relationship. When she sent her pictures, she looked plain but attractive. We exchanged a couple of e-mails over the course of two hours, tossing back and forth lists of interests and the like.
She made it clear that she wanted to meet up, and while she talked about starting slow, it was clear that it would indeed be a casual encounter. But when I suggested a time to meet — the last message from me before I would reveal myself and back out — there was no reply. At least, not yet. The next day, she e-mailed me saying she was deeply apologetic and that she'd fallen asleep.
She said she'd like to meet up sometime. So yes, there are women on Craigslist. Well, at least one! You've probably guessed by now that the experiences for heterosexual men and women on Craigslist's casual encounters are quite different. I observed that for every ad a woman posts, there are at least 20 from men.
If nothing else, that imbalance ought to alter the experience. To get the female perspective, I did two things: I posted a fake ad as a woman to see what kinds of responses I would get, and I interviewed two women who have had success hooking up on casual encounters in the past.
As for potential suitors, I asked only that they supply a photo and "be attractive and not creepy. There was a five minute delay before my ad appeared, then I started receiving about one response per minute. Most of them were careful to say "I don't do this often. Some sent pictures of themselves naked along with the word "Hi. There were a lot of expressions of sympathy over my fake breakup. I was hearing from men of all types, and it seemed I had my pick of the litter. After about thirty minutes, though, my post was flagged for removal.
I thought I'd made it look legit, but as we learned earlier, folks have good reason to be hawkish about scammers. After the end of my test run with Craigslist casual encounters, I decided to get more insight into the female experience with the site by interviewing two women who said they had successes meeting up with men on Casual Encounters.
Their problem was the opposite of mine. They had too many options to pick from, but they both dealt with the numerous choices in the same way.
Both women ultimately responded to men who they felt put effort into writing long, personal messages as opposed to quick notes. Multiple paragraphs of insightful and relatable prose won out — but only after the initial test of physical appearance. Both said they immediately eliminated men who opened with pictures of genitalia — a very common practice.
However, looks were important. One of the women I interviewed said she once had a crush on a client at her job, but couldn't make a move without compromising her professionalism. However, she was looking through Casual Encounters and saw an ad from a man, and she recognized his writing style — it was her old client!
She sent him a message to see if it was him, asking a question only he would be able to answer. He proved his identity and they ended up hooking up. One of the women said she would go to Casual Encounters when she was looking for a very specific sexual experience — something you can't always count on from a one night stand that starts at a club or bar. The other said her reasons could be summed up as "curiosity, boredom, and convenience. The trick is to keep an open mind and not have any real expectations.
At the very least, it's mildly entertaining. After all this exploration, I'll say that Craigslist casual encounters is a place where people go to find very specific things from each other that they might not be able to conveniently locate in the real world. Some of those things are very alternative.
It's a last, best hope for some people who are looking to make a personal connection, but it's full of spam, unwanted attention, crime, and, well You might not find what you're looking for, but you're sure to find something interesting regardless. Image courtesy of iStockphoto , nights , geotrac.
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